Emotional Management of Infertility – 7 Ways to Support a Friend

Infertility for most of you constitutes a path that you need or feel that you have to go through alone. Even if this is an intimate experience for you, the negative feeling beside that – since you face difficulties on trying to achieve something that it seems so simple for the human nature and, of course, since nobody can understand what you are going through – is enough to lead you towards introversion and, in some cases, to isolation. Do not forget … it is very important to share your thoughts, feelings, experiences with people who are close to you and love you, or with your fellow people who are or have been in the same emotional-social situation as you are. The sense that someone is here for you, supports you, listens to you and advises you is of the utmost importance, as well as the fact of exchanging information and knowledge on the matter you are concerned with, is very important for the smoother development of the facts that seem to affect your life.

Although we live in times of modernization and development, fertility is still an issue that is surrounded by many taboos and prejudices in today’s society and creates, in many couples the feeling and the impression of social stigma and personal inadequacy. So, to help these couples stand up and feel intimate in such an inhospitable environment that, unfortunately, society offers them, we show you below 7 ways to support yourself, your friends, your beloved ones, people who are experiencing such a situation.

1. Educate yourself

The world of fertility is huge. However, the sources to be informed today are so many that are definitely offered to make a beginning. Read, learn what you can on the issue of infertility. Your friend will, surely, feel that she has a person next to her who understands her, she knows and understands what is going on. In this way you will help her to be open to you, to feel intimate and supportive.

2. Stay with her

Infertility, as we said earlier, is a lonely and depressing experience for many women. It is important to devote yourself, even for a little while to your friend, go out and do activities together … it’s important to help her forget about her problems and offer her another side of life, more carefree, more joyful. Share beautiful moments together.

3. She is not your “problematic friend”

Your friend may experience problems with her fertility. However, it does not characterize her entire personality. It is unfair to place “labels” on people who give them a property that marginalizes them and stigmatizes them even more.

4. Do not joke about her condition

Your friend is going through a harsh period in her life and needs your support. Do not submit it to puns and jokes that offend her personality and her being.

5. Listen to her

So important and so difficult, sometimes. Being able to listen without having to resolve, judge, reduce or compare, is a great asset for a person today. What your friend expects from you is just listening to her, expressing interest without showing her that you feel sorry or feel bad about her. Do not forget … she is not sick! She simply experiences a difficult emotional, above all, situation.

6. Give her space

Your friend definitely loves you, but she is also going through a tough period. Perhaps, she needs some space from you. Do not pressure her, respect her wishes. Help her understand that you’re there for her for whatever it takes. Believe us, that’s enough!

7. Be Sensitive

It is so beautiful for you, your friends or acquaintances to have children…. And at the same time so disastrous for your friend who faces difficulties in getting pregnant. Be careful with the way you transfer her this kind of news. Try to get into her place and, no matter how difficult it is, do not put her in a difficult position.